<ul><li>No, we do not need to identify with it 24/7.</li><li>When we identify with the self, we live in fear, anxiety, stress, and suffering. When we are able to identify ourselves with that which has no boundaries, there is no fear.</li></ul>

Do We Need the Self?

<ul><li>Having no particular, fixed view means seeing that all views are limited, that no particular view is the only view.</li><li>“Actually, the right view is no view.”</li><li>Imagine six blind guys who have never seen an elephant before and are each touching a different part of the big old animal, describing what an elephant is. The first blind man grabs the tail and says the elephant is like a rope. The second one grabs the leg and is certain it's like a pillar. The third touches the trunk and thinks it's a tree branch. The others all have different perspectives.</li></ul>

Right View

<ul><li>Ken Wilber likes to talk about “partial truths”.</li><li>No one is smart enough to be either 100% right or 100% wrong.</li><li>There's always a partial truth to a perspective-no matter how limited.</li><li>We get in trouble when we think our perspective is always right.</li><li>It is important to shift perspectives consistently.</li></ul>

The Limitation of Thinking Your Perspective is the Absolute Truth

<ul><li>It doesn't matter what gear you're stuck in, if you can't shift as life demands, your car is dysfunctional. Same with our lives.</li><li>When the mind is stuck, you're in dukkha (usually translated from the Sanskrit as suffering), which literally means a wheel whose hub doesn't move.</li><li>Experience sukkha, a liberated wheel, a freed-up wheel, which means liberation, nirvana.</li></ul>

A Maserati Stuck in First Gear

<ul><li>A company where no one knows their job title, job description, or what they're supposed to be doing is going to be a company in suffering, in shambles.</li><li>It's hard to run a company when you don't know what your employees' jobs are.</li></ul>

A Dysfunctional Company

<ul><li>Genpo leads us through a systematic dialogue with a number of our “key employees” to get a sense of who they are, what they do, and what's important to them while we clarify their roles.</li><li>Every aspect of the self has its own innate wisdom.</li><li>If we would simply allow every voice to be heard, to be appreciated, and to be honored, we as human beings would live a much healthier, happier, and joyful life.</li><li>By denying or suppressing any aspect, we are creating a problem both for the self and for others.</li></ul>

Integrated Feminine/Masculine Compassion

One is nurturing and supportive. The other is ruthless and decisive. BOTH are essential for an integrated compassion.

Feminine and Masculine Compassion

“I include all the aspects of the self, all the dualistic voices and Big Mind, the non-dual, no-self, and I transcend them. I am also known as the Master, or the Unique Self. I am absolutely unique, there is no one else in the entire world exactly like me. I have no need to prove anything or to be special, since I am special and unique to begin with.”

“That’s the beautiful thing, that’s the secret: to want what you get rather than trying to get what you want, because that seems like a never-ending battle, and a losing battle at that. We seem to always get what we need, though. So when we want what we get, it’s really like wanting what we need.”

“I am the True Self. In other words, I am the one that truly transcends. The Non-Dual is still not truly transcendent because somehow it sees itself as better or greater than the dual, which is still very dualistic. I embrace desires and seeking and fear and distinctions. I embrace them all, but I am not bound by them, I’m not attached to them. I can have a desire, and drop the desire if it’s not fulfilled… I don’t get stuck anywhere.”

<ul><li>“Can you imagine a world where everybody was free, happy, and joyful, where everybody came from a place of generosity and giving freely without any strings attached? Can you just imagine this world? It’s almost impossible to imagine, it would be such a different place.</li><li>Well, that’s our work. That’s what we’re here to do. That’s what this book is all about. If enough of us can get to that level of consciousness, I believe the whole planet, would be transformed.”</li><li>That’s the Voice of Generosity.</li></ul>

Can You Imagine?

Here we will explore some of Genpo Merzel's ideas, including how the root of suffering (dukkha) is getting stuck in one perspective and how that is as effective as having a Maserati stuck in first gear.

This book presents a highly original and accessible pathway to self-discovery and personal liberation. Since 1999 the Big Mind process has been experienced by many thousands of people in seminars across America. Big Mind employs a Jungian voice dialogue technique that enables people to step out of limited self-concepts into awareness of their many different sub-selves (emotions/mental states). In addition to exploration of the more familiar sub-voices like anger and fear, author Zen Master Dennis Genpo Merzel uses this technique to help people access the ever-present Big Mind/Big Heart awareness - the clear, 'just being' awareness and the unconditional compassion that we all can experience. The Big Mind process is now available in book form to bring readers of all backgrounds many benefits including: access to our innate wisdom, compassion and equanimity; openness of mind and ability to shift perspectives; greater presence and empowerment; and appreciation for the wisdom within all of our many sub-selves even ones we tend to dislike or disown, like fear and anger.

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This book presents a highly original and accessible pathway to self-discovery and personal liberation. Since 1999 the Big Mind process has been experienced by many thousands of people in seminars across America. Big Mind employs a Jungian voice dialogue technique that enables people to step out of limited self-concepts into awareness of their many different sub-selves (emotions/mental states). In addition to exploration of the more familiar sub-voices like anger and fear, author Zen Master Dennis Genpo Merzel uses this technique to help people access the ever-present Big Mind/Big Heart awareness - the clear, just being awareness and the unconditional compassion that we all can experience. The Big Mind process is now available in book form to bring readers of all backgrounds many benefits including: access to our innate wisdom, compassion and equanimity; openness of mind and ability to shift perspectives; greater presence and empowerment; and appreciation for the wisdom within all of our many sub-selves even ones we tend to dislike or disown, like fear and anger.

Dennis Genpo Merzel

Big Mind, Big Heart

Tech neck is the hunch you develop from staring at your phone too much. The Australian Chiropractors Association claim that bending your head to use a phone stresses the spine. For example, let’s say you hold your phone at an angle that makes you lower your head by 60 degrees. That adds about 27kg (60lbs) of weight through your spine.

Tech neck is only two years old

Phones have harmed us in a few ways: A pain in the neck, phone thumb (where your thumb can become inflamed from prolonged texting), the blue light that can interfere with melatonin production, and eye strain from prolonged use. However, the posture problem is easy to correct.<ul><li>Use a simple stretch, where you interlock your fingers behind your head and hold your elbows against a wall.</li><li>Or you could try holding your phone at eye level to reduce the pressure on your spine.</li><li>You could always try not using your phone as much.</li></ul>

Correcting the posture problem

Bending your head to use a phone stresses the spine, say chiropractors – and that’s not the only way the devices are injuring and changing us

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Tech neck: what are smartphones doing to our bodies?

In many parts of the world, there’s a deeply ingrained belief that sunny days make us feel more cheerful. It seems like common sense, but the scientific evidence is surprisingly equivocal.
Yes, there are individual studies supporting the link – for instance, in 2013, researchers at the Freie Universität Berlin reported that people surveyed on exceptionally sunny days felt more satisfied with life than people surveyed on cloudier days.

How The Sun Influences Our Mood

Flipping things around, even the idea that many of us are more prone to depression in the gloomier the winter months (known as ‘seasonal affective disorder’) is controversial. While too much sunshine is undoubtedly bad for your unprotected skin, sunlight exposure is also beneficial in many ways because it allows the body to create more vitamin D, which can <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/07315724.2015.1039866">reduce the risk of cancer</a> and <a href="https://www.karger.com/Article/Abstract/441266">lower blood pressure</a> among other health benefits.

Just The Right Sunlight

Morning exposure to <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2352721817300414">sufficient daylight</a> is also important for entraining the circadian rhythm, which is important for healthy sleep. So, while excessive sunbathing is unwise, so too is closeting yourself indoors without any sunlight at all.

The Morning Sun

It's worth making the most of the sunshine, but be sure to keep your skin protected.

Does sunshine make us happier and healthier? | BBC Science Focus Magazine

Deciding to take your side hustle full time or thinking about starting one is not an easy choice, especially if you’re stuck in a job and you feel you should stay simply because you’re lucky to have one right now.Emergencies fast-forward history — personal, political, and societal. Decisions that in normal times could take years of deliberation are passed in a matter of hours during a crisis.

A Job Vs Your Own Thing

If you’re stuck in a job, should you stay simply because you’re lucky to have one or take a risk on your passion project? If you’re just entering the workforce, should you spend time competing for a role or focus on building a business of your own?There are many factors you need to weigh before making these decisions.

Time To Decide

If you have a business idea in mind but you aren’t sure that it’s addressing a real problem, you might end up spending your time and energy building the wrong thing. Great businesses are built on deep insights. Consider if you truly understand the unmet needs of the customers or community you are serving and if you have enough data to validate your idea.Ask yourself:<ul><li>Does the customer really see this as a problem?</li><li>Will it make their life better?</li><li>Would they be willing to pay for it?</li></ul>

The Passion Project Solving a Problem

Even after you validate your hypothesis, you need to test your minimum viable product (MVP). Simply put, an MVP is a functional prototype with just enough features to convey your idea in its simplest form. The goal is to build something that your customer can actually use so that they can give you critical feedback on what’s working and what’s not.

The Product Or Service Actually Working

In essence, you want to use this stage of product development to a) build a community interested in what you have to offer and b) figure out a business model that serves their needs based on their feedback. Doing this will empower you in two ways: First, it will help eliminate the gap between your product development and revenue generation. Through your MVP, you may have opportunities to make a decent revenue before officially launching. Second, you can use any revenue you do make to help you build the next version of your product or service.

Using The Early Stage Of Development

1,000 true fans, or unique customers reached organically, is an alternative path to success other than stardom. Instead of trying to reach the narrow and unlikely peaks of platinum bestseller hits, blockbusters, and celebrity status, you can aim for a direct connection with a thousand true fans. On your way, no matter how many fans you actually succeed in gaining, you’ll be surrounded not by faddish infatuation, but by genuine and true appreciation. It’s a much saner destiny to hope for. And you are much more likely to actually arrive there.

The Starting Goal: 1000 Customers

Your goal doesn’t necessarily need to be to build the next Google or Facebook. And even if that is your goal, you still need to figure out how to get those first 1,000 people to pay for what you are building if you want to succeed. It may sound easy but getting people to pay for a product requires substantial grit, especially if you don’t have investors on board.

You Cannot Be Google In Step 1

Quitting your full-time job to start a company is like proposing marriage on the first date. … The most durable businesses are typically started by people who play it safe.

Risk-taking is often glamorized by touting isolated examples of moonshot successes, but the best entrepreneurs are those who are able to figure out the optimum risk-reward ratio that works for them.As an entrepreneur, you need to understand what you’re inherently good at and like to do and what you need help with. You don’t need to possess all the skills required to run a business, but you need to be able to find people with skills that complement your own to help you realize your dream.

Managing A Business

Deciding to take your side hustle full time or thinking about starting one is not an easy choice, especially if you’re stuck in a job and you feel you should stay simply because you’re lucky to have one right now. Utkarsh Amitabh was working a full time job and balancing his side hustle, Network Capital until recently. In June this year, he decided to take a risk on his passion project and quit his job. In this personal essay, Utkarsh shares how he went about making the decision and highlights the questions you need to weigh in on: 1) Is my passion project solving a problem? 2) Does my product actually work? 3) Have I reached at least 1,000 customers, or can I? 4) Do I really have the skills and resources required to manage a business right now?

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Should You Choose Your Passion Over a Paycheck?

Mindfulness is simply focusing and guiding your attention. And while it may sound easy, it isn’t just a pop culture buzzword. It’s one of the best ways to help your brain adapt to and manage stress.“This is not just some passive breathing exercise. It is a significant brain-training resource, Achieving control of your thoughts so that your thoughts don’t control you can be a super-power for many people.

The best way to capture moments is to pay attention. This is how we cultivate mindfulness.

Live the actual moment. Only this actual moment is life.

Wisdom says we are nothing. Love says we are everything. Between these two our life flows.

When you’re feeling frazzled, put all of your attention on the breath. It’s a portal into the present moment, the best remedy for stress.

Mindfulness clears the windshield of the mind so that we can see things as they really are.

Mindfulness is a simple practice, but not an easy one … but you are worth doing hard things.

Practicing a mindful moment in the middle of the day, helps to bring you back to center, reset, and move into the rest of your day with greater clarity and focus.

Nothing is forever except change.

Be where you are, otherwise you will miss your life.

For what it’s worth, it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over.

The only way to live is by accepting each minute as an unrepeatable miracle.

Mindfulness quotes inspire and motivate, and sending them as reminders can even be a valuable intervention. Here are 76 powerful ones!

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76 Most Powerful Mindfulness Quotes: Your Daily Dose of Inspiration

<ul><li>When we’re facing uncertainty, mindfulness skills may help us to interpret situations as more positive than negative</li><li>Throughout the day, our brain must interpret the meaning of many kinds of emotional, physical, and social stimuli</li><li>Research in the field of psychology has found that people tend to have a default negative reaction to these cues</li><li>Individuals who have a negative valence bias are at a greater risk of developing symptoms of mood and anxiety disorders</li><li>It may be possible for us to reduce our tendency toward a negative bias, and shift to a more positive interpretation of uncertainty.</li></ul>

Mindfulness In Uncertain Times

The number of articles published on the effects of mindfulness has grown exponentially in recent decades and has revealed the significant benefits that mindfulness-based interventions can have for our ability to feel and express our emotions. However, there are some limitations to this dataStudies have mainly focused on short-term outcomes of the MBSR program and have not assessed the long-term impacts beyond the end of the intervention. Researchers rely on self-report measures, which could mean that participants alter their responses based on how they think the researchers want them to answer

A Look at the Mindfulness Literature

Allowing your feelings to come and go and take time with them [means] that you’d be able to let that first negative response happen, be with it, and then say ‘Ah, this could also be positive.’

When we're facing uncertainty, mindfulness skills may help us to interpret emotional situations as more positive, a recent publication shows.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Can Mindfulness Change How We Interpret Emotional Situations? - Mindful

Often when we’re caught up in a loop or overthinking, we aren’t aware of it. It seems like the right thing to do, to keep thinking about this thing that’s worrying us. But to break out of the loop, we have to notice we’re in it. Signs that will point out to you that you’re in a loop:  For many people, it’s a rising amount of anxiety or worries, an inability to sleep, and an inability to focus. For others, it might be a desire to lash out at someone or to plan or otherwise get control. The key is just to notice you’re in it.

Notice

Once you’ve noticed, the magic trick is to look beyond the thing you think needs to be solved … to the fear underneath. It’s like not looking at the hand the magician is trying to direct your attention to, but to the other hand that is hiding the coin. Don’t look at the object of your thoughts or the problem you need to solve … but the fear that’s having you want to obsess and overthink. What are you feeling right now, in your body?

Turn toward the underlying fear

Before we let go of the overthinking, we have to be with the feeling of fear that’s in our bodies. Otherwise, it’s like trying to calm a freaked-out child by ignoring them. What if instead we could be with the fear and relax with it, so it can relax? Can you feel the fear, as sensation, and stay with it? Can you breathe deeply and slowly, so you can slow your heartbeat and relax with the fear? Can you bring curiosity towards it? If it’s challenging, you might think of it as being with your heart.

Be with the fear

Ask what your fear could use right now — some compassion, some music, a nice cup of tea, journaling or a walk? Then ask what’s needed in the situation you’re overthinking — what’s the simplest thing that you could do here, what’s the simplest way you could speak from the heart? Then trust that, breathe, and move to the present moment.

Ask what’s needed

What’s something right in front of you that you could focus on?It might be the light in the room, nature, or another person. Or it might be answering an email or writing a blog post.

Turn toward something right in front of you

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How to Let Go of Obsessive Overthinking

<ul><li>Overworking: an attachment to getting as much done as possible.</li><li>Putting things off: an attachment to doing it right or to getting a particular outcome.</li><li>Frustrations with other people: having people behave the way we want them to, or to having them be happy with us.</li><li>Feeling overwhelmed: an attachment to a feeling of order, simplicity, or knowing exactly what to do.</li><li>Addictions to social media: a feeling of comfort, or maybe a feeling of being entertained.</li><li>Clutter: an attachment to possessions for emotional reasons.</li><li>Social anxiety: having people view us a certain way.</li></ul>

Struggles That Stem From Our Attachments

Once we can see the attachment, we can practice with it, and see if we can release the attachment.<ul><li>Breathe. Turn towards the present moment.</li><li>Let yourself feel the emotion associated with the attachment. Just be with it, mindfully, and feel it as a sensation in the body.</li><li>Ask if the attachment is serving you.</li><li>Ask would it could be like without the attachment.</li><li>Joyfully release the attachment like releasing your grip on a balloon … and let it float away! See if you can experience a few moments without the attachment, and see what that’s like. What’s available to you when you are free of the attachment?</li></ul>

A Joyful Letting Go

The Joy of Letting Go

Do boys wants to be loved? What normal people (Most of the people) answers is "Yes! Of course, they are living beings also. Even boys receive more love than Girls". But it is not that true all the times. You can easily observe people saying that boys are tough. They are bold. They do not want love. All they need is Bravery, Strength...all that. Ask yourself, is that true? It was true when a king wants his son to be next heir. Not today.How will you define a BAD_BOY? A boy who is rude, insults other, don't respect girls...all that. But deep down this boys is BAD because he was not much loved.

What are love issues with boys?

In his childhood, boys don't care about anything. All he want is someone/something to play with. soon after, he can realize that his mother and father will love him and take care of him. But problem starts, when is starts to understand things. For example, if his father brought her daughter a new dress and don't asked for him, he will get upset and starts hating(more specific, dislike) both his father and sister. And it is obvious. It this happens to him for more time, he will think that he is bad or his father don't love him. From here real changes begins that lead him to choose wrong path.

Let's Start from Beginning

You can see some boys are cool and funny around. And some other boys are very rude and Stone-hearted. Why this? Because they are not that much loved. And thus, they accept the way that love has nothing to do. Then in order to fulfil their desire, they starts to involve in wrong doings. This is where a boy forces a girl to satisfy his desire. You know what I'm talking about. And I accept that this is not right. What I want to tell all boys is that they should not do this kind of shameful activity. This will leave a bad spot on manhood. Understand that in ancient times, men were Gentleman.

Why some boys are bad?

When a girl fell in love, she loves it to the core. Same is for boys. I accept that some boys are not open in expressing their love. Some boys are rude toward their girl. And some boys are Z+ bodyguard of their girls. Difference is common cause of nature. You can't avoid it. But what you can control is your love for them. A girl want love and affection from boy and vice-versa. Variation can be seen when a boy approaches a girl. Some are 'Once in a life', other are 'Do as more as you can'. Both have same background. Less loved more bad times. That's why, boy tries to approach by doing shits.

Boy and Girl relationship.

He will either try to become an alpha male or do some non-sense things to get the girl. But his intentions are not bad. He want love from that girl. If she rejects him, then he will start to bother her. Why he is doing this? Read the next idea.

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After marriage(or before) some men tries to suppress their wives either mentally or physically. Why? Because the are not taught how to respect women. It is very Important for man to understand that HE SHOULD RESPECT WOMAN. And this is the responsibility of a father to teach his son. All that boys who suppress their girls are either overprotective or are not taught to respect girls.What to do? Ask their friends/parent/elders to teach them the same. Or do whatever it takes to make them understand that it is sinful activity to disrespect someone.

Why some man tries to Suppress her Wife.

A father is role model for a boy. Because his father has reputation in society and so his boy want. Some fathers are open and express their love, while some are not that open and their boy think that he do not love him. According to a Study, Girls receive more love from father than boy. And this lead to change in behavior of a boy. This boy now feel separated from his father. He starts disrespect his father and ends up with fight. On the other hand,  a father is strict toward his boy because he want him to be in control.What you need to understand is that your boy also wants your attention.

Father - Son relationship.

In India, I live is a society where a boy don't exist if he is not employed. And in a middle class family, boy has much responsibilities to do. You can relate this if you're also a middle class boy. Your parents expects a lot from you. Also your parents are busy in earning a livelihood. Thus they can't spare enough time for you. And you think that you are not loved.What you have to understand that all you have to focus on your academics. Don't focus on any other thing. Your parents loves you more that you think. Make them feel proud to be your parent. Get a job, then see the changes.

A middle Class Boy.

A boy need to understand this world works in a balance. You respect girls, girls will respect you. You love your parent(no matter how hard they are on you), your parent will love you. Love and respect are meant to be earned not purchased. As a boy your responsibility is to be strong enough to gain some reputation in society. I will not write about responsibilities of a boy. You know that stuff. What I want to focus is that no matter how bad people treat you, you must be polite and soft towards other. That will make you GENTLEMEN.

A boy

1. You have to be a son, not a man in front of your parent.2. Your girl is your second half. Respect her, take care of her, don't bother her.3. Rejection is okay. Learn to bear it. Don't bother if she rejected you. Different person have different views for other. Accept it and move on.4. Achieve something in your life. Don't waste your life watching porn or other wrong things.5. Learn to hide you anger. This can save you from many bad situations.6. No matter how physical fir you are. If can't take care of your family, it is useless.7. Be a GENTLEMAN. This is upto you, how you achieve this.

Understand These Things.

In this stash I would like to talk about love issues faced by a boy in society. My intentions are not bad. I'm not comparing boys with girls. At some point you may feel like comparison but it is not. And I accept that for parent both boy and girl are equal. In this stash I am talking about why some boys are rude and are not that accepted. I beg your pardon if any of my view has hurted your feeling.

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Love and respect Issues with Boys!!

<ul><li>We struggle with habit change because we have unrealistic expectations of how things will turn out, how others should be, and how we should be.</li><li>When our expectations aren’t met, we feel disappointed, frustrated and sad.</li><li>When we turn from our Mind Movie and embrace reality, we overcome our inner resistance to habit change.</li></ul>

Key Insights

There’s a projector in our minds, and it’s constantly playing a movie about how we’d like things to be, our ideals about the world, our expectations of how things will turn out, how others should be, [and] how we should be.The Mind Movie is what stands in our way of making habit changes. It tells us that changing a habit should be easy and fun, but the reality is that we must wander outside our comfort zone.The Childish Mind is the part of our mind that complains about how things are, that fears discomfort, that just wants pleasure and comfort, that doesn’t want things to be difficult.

The Movie Inside Our Minds

<ul><li>Gratitude is a great antidote to resistance that we can practice each day, including when our Childish Mind eventually starts to rebel against doing the habit.</li><li> Take mistakes in stride, and take the long view that what really matters is not whether you mess up for a day or two, but what you do over weeks and months and years.</li></ul>

Taming The Childish Mind

<ul><li>Consider writing a short journal entry about your reflections, to solidify your learning.</li><li>Treat habit formation as a learning process, as a way to learn about yourself, your mind, mindfulness, resistance and more.</li><li>Gradually the habit becomes your new normal and you can expand a bit more, pushing your comfort zone a little at a time”.</li></ul>Question: “What does the resistance feel like? Is there a way to accept the thing you’re resisting, accept the discomfort, relax into it, and find gratitude for it? What is good about the discomfort?”

Understanding How Habits Are Formed

A key habit skill is learning to flow around the disruptions and just keep going.Notice feelings of discomfort and uncertainty, and stay with them. Get to know them. Get intimate with these feelings.When we experience groundlessness — a feeling of not being anchored, not certain, things not going our way, a feeling of loss — our minds don’t normally like it.One of the most difficult tasks we can give to our Childish Mind is letting go of what it really wants, and accepting life as it is, seeing that it’s already enough

Going With The Flow

<ul><li>A good practice is to not attach to the outcome. Have a good intention for the habit, but don’t worry too much about how it will turn out because you can’t control that”.</li><li> Tell yourself that when you slip and fall, it’s just another lesson that will teach you to be better at change.</li><li>Mistakes means you’re pushing into new ground and exploring something interesting — if you weren’t, you wouldn’t make mistakes.</li><li>See every mistake as an opportunity to learn, a thing that you can get better at, the feedback that’s so crucial for improvement.</li></ul>

Overcoming The Burden Of Making Mistakes

<ul><li>Form new, positive habits at least three times before taking on a quit”.</li><li>The first thing you need to do before you attempt to quit a habit is track it for three days and try to write down every trigger for the habit.</li><li>Each bad habit meets some kind of need, or you wouldn’t be doing the habit.</li><li>For each trigger and need, write down a positive replacement habit that will meet the same need.</li></ul>

Positive Habits Vs Bad Habits

Watch an urge gently, without judgment or wishing the feeling weren’t there. Treat it like a friend, kindly. And see that this feeling is impermanent, just arises but will pass, like a cloud. This is the whole meditation: just watch with curiosity and kindness, not attaching to the feeling or needing to act on it.Tell yourself you can do this, you’re strong, you got this. And be realistic in that things won’t go as planned, but those are learning opportunities. In the long run, you’re going to make it, because you’re worth it.

Handling The Urge

The real question isn’t whether you’ll mess up, but what you’ll do if you do mess up

<ul><li>Pick one new, easy habit you can do once a day</li><li>Don’t start right away</li><li>Create a vow</li><li>Create a space</li><li>Set a trigger & a reminder</li><li>Start with a Minimum Viable Habit</li><li>Focus on enjoying the habit</li><li>Practice mindfulness</li><li>Watch your Mind Movie</li><li>Reflect and journal</li><li>A daily practice</li><li>Increase gradually</li></ul>

How to Create a New Habit

<ul><li>Don’t attempt a quit until several successful new habit changes</li><li>Track your habit</li><li>List your triggers</li><li>List your needs</li><li>Come up with replacement habits</li><li>Use techniques you’ve learned</li><li>Gradual change vs. cold turkey</li><li>Learn to recognize urges as they arise</li><li>Form the right mindset</li><li>When you fail, get back on track and don’t let it derail you</li></ul>

How to Quit a Bad Habit

A guide to overcoming the mind's resistance to change, with a method for forming habits, increasing mindfulness, and dealing with life struggles.

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Essential Zen Habits

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